Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Elizabeth Smart delivers a message of hope for victims of abuse.


Elizabeth Smart speaks out against child abuse for Boys and Girls Town of Springfield

 Elizabeth Smart addressed residents of Springfield in an effort to bring attention to April as child abuse and neglect prevention month.  This special free community event was organized by Boys and Girls Town of Missouri ,a Great Circle agency, as part of the “Be a lifesaver-Prevent child abuse” campaign.  .
Elizabeth told the widely publicized story of her 2002 abduction, abuse, survival and eventual return to her family 9 months later in order to raise awareness in the Ozarks community.  She explained her desire to use her tragic experience as not only a cautionary tale but as a message of healing and hope.   The audience of approximately 1,900 comprised of state senators and representatives, non for profit child advocacy groups, local business leaders, concerned citizens and local media.  They gathered to  learn more about the problems of child abuse in our community,  the state and the nation and how to develop solutions. 
Prior to the keynote speech, Missouri House representative Shane Scholler spoke of the alarming effects that radiate out from cases of abuse to our families, community and throughout the nation. He explained that of 6,000 reported cases of child abuse in Missouri, 1,800 occurred in our Southwest region.  Schoeller stated that 5 children die every day in the U.S. and that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are molested by age 18.  Of those molested boys, 30% are more likely to commit violent crimes and a third will go on to abuse their own children.  Representative Schoeller urged the audience to take action and end the cycle of generations of abuse. 

Knowing children  right here in the Ozarks are being victimized by the very people responsible with their safety can be devastating but you do have the power to help.  Government, private business, and organizations like Boys and Girls Town, CASA,  the News Leader,  Ken Coleman's Memorial 5K to prevent child abuse,  the Burrell center and individuals are all taking action.  Missouri state senator Bob Dixon described his efforts in leading a child abuse prevention task force and in bringing about a resolution in the Missouri senate that recognizes April as child abuse and neglect prevention month.  Jennifer Adams of the St. Louis office of The Great Circle Agency explained that they help over 11,500 children in Missouri, 60% of those being victims of abuse.  Locally, in the Springfield Children’s home over 100 children a day have access to 24/7 care including medical attention and emotional support.
After sharing the harrowing details of her 9 month ordeal, Elizabeth Smart challenged Springfield to make a choice, “We all face adversity in our lives and those who have experienced abuse must choose not to let the pain and control continue.”   She used her story to teach that whether you are a victim of violence or facing life’s adversity you have the power to take a stand and solve the problems that confront you.    

What can you do to help prevent child abuse and neglect?
·         Become more informed and aware of the problem
·         Be vigilant and unafraid to report abusive behavior in your community.
·         Volunteer for organizations like Casa and Boys and Girls Town
·         Support local events like the Ken Coleman Memorial 5K, April 21st
·         Donate money to organizations that are directly involved in helping children of abuse
·         Set an example for your children and family members by being a role model of respect and compassion
What are the affects of a nation with 3.4 million cases of abused children?
 According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention  the cycle of abuse can be linked to:
·         1 year of confirmed cases of child maltreatment cost the nation over $124 billion
·         Increased delinquency
·         Substance Abuse
·         Intimate Partner Abuse
·         Teen Pregnancy
·         Depression
·         Suicide

Bullying in the Ozarks; Dynamic Edge Martial Arts approach to Bullying




What We WILL NOT DO:
We will not take the approach that violence, as some "experts" suggest, are acceptable paths to bully prevention. 
"Beating up the bully" is not an approach we endorse or suggest.
While defending yourself from harm may be something that needs to be done, beating up ---as in punching or kicking another human being as a way to stop the problem of bullying --is not the path we suggest. 
Violence does not heal violence --nor does it stop it. 
We will learn to elevate our understanding of the problem and work together to solve it. We will teach compassion, cooperation and communication as our primary tools. 
We must learn to interrupt the patter of violent escalation. 
A bully insults, the victim yells back, the bully is entertained, angered, energized, and escalates to using physical abuse or more extreme forms of social bullying. The victim retaliates. The bully retaliates harder with more friends egging him/her on.  The violence cycle spirals upward and out of control until the victim may see the only solution to ending this tormented experience is to kill the bully or kill themselves, thinking "I will never be bullied again." 
Physical confrontation is the last resort of bully prevention --and the least constructive. If we as Martial Artists (and this goes for parents, educators, and the entertainment industry) promote or propose violence as a solution to bullying, we will be catering to the lowest form of thinking man is capable of.  Our aim is to help foster compassion, understanding and a progress that moves our thinking and our humanness forward in a direction away from violence, abuse, and bullying.   

Sticks and Stones: Bullicide


What is Bullicide? Bullicide is a term that refers to suicide as a result of bullying.  When victims feel hopeless, like there is no where to turn, when they feel powerless to prevent the soul crushing torment and they feel like it will never end they sometimes turn to extreme choices of behavior. Violence and violence against self. For the victim, the only choice they see is to end themselves, or end the bully.


More importantly, if a student has low self-esteem to begin with, and is constantly barraged by bullies who reinforce his low self-worth, he then becomes a prime candidate for bullying suicide.  Consider this statistic: 86% of kids who were picked on or bullied turned to violence in the schools.  However, it should be noted that some of the violence is turned inward, thus creating bullying suicide.
Furthermore, recent statistics assert that over 280,000 kids are physically attacked in secondary schools each month.  If a teen in middle school is among the victims of these insidious attacks, and there is no recourse either through official channels or through counseling, it seems reasonable to assume that this child will go through all of the phases of teen depression – and ultimately commit the final act which will end the violence perpetrated on him or her.


Sticks and Stones: Short video on "Bullicide"

This Video is a short and powerful reminder of the very real, human cost bullying causes.



5 Great sources for information about bullying


  1. Burrell Behavioral Center  Telephone:   417.761.5000
    Outside Springfield:   800.299.133 : Local help, counselling  and support services for Southwest Missouri. 
  2. Dynamic Edge Martial Arts 417-889-8900  Ozarks region, Springfield, MO. A local martial arts school committed to mission of ending bullying in schools. They provide training for our Bully Blockers presentations, classes, do free community clinics, work with parents and educators and are open to collaborating with other local, state and national efforts working to decrease violence and increase compassion in our schools, homes, and communities. DynamicEdgeMA.com e-mail DynamicEdgeinfo@gmail.com
  3.  Nobully.com and their blog http://nobully.wordpress.com/
  4.  Center for Disease Control: Report on Bullying 
  5.  Pacer's National Bullying Prevention Program